the right crowd

show me your friend and i will tell you who you are.

finding it hard to define yourself?
simple
take a long good look at your friends.

how do people make friends?
on a practical level, it is quite acceptable to say that one requires like-minded people in order to achieve their goals, visions, etc.
so, if your friends are people bearing certain distinct traits and characters, then to some extent, wouldn't one be justified to say "you are the embodiment of your friends' characters" or in other words; show me your friends and i will tell you who you are.

assessed your friends?
don't like what you see?
no cause for alarm.
it simply means you need to move on to people who have what you would like to have. refuse to settle.
and above all, be willing to change.

i have been chanced (strange choice of word) to experience what it is like to walk with the right and "wrong" crowd.

let us compare the two experiences.

the wrong crowd.
there are times you sort of give up on yourself. that's when you tend to seek pleasure and enjoyment. the wrong crowd always has just what you need. it is satisfying being around them. belonging. being part of the group. but then one like me, no matter what, my conscience has a whip and it is not afraid to use it.
at a point in time, you find yourself drifting into a state of confusion. you can't really call yourself one of them, but then again you can't bear to stand alone. this is where you find you are being disgusted with yourself, your life, and everything else around you. depression.

the right crowd.
(let me be a bit more personal here)
i found myself being motivated with every conversation. i looked forward to every meeting, event or occasion that involved our gathering. i was delighted to walk with them. they are the kind i can boast of to anyone. these are people that helped build my character. people who saw a dream and supported it even when i thought it was merely a flimsy thought. these are people who saw the me i had always wanted to be. and i was finally free to be that person.

with such friends....who wants to go back?